Showing posts with label Tv-free living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tv-free living. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

838 Ways to Amuse a Child


My dad found this book called 838 Ways to Amuse a Child at a used bookstore and got it for me awhile back. A few months ago I checked it out and found it pretty amusing. It was published in like 1960, so its really different from modern books about children's activities. For example, it gives ideas like if you want to hike with your child, write a letter to the National Hiking and Camping Association and ask for information. Its all about "correspondence", how to entertain your "convalescent child" while they are "convalescing" and things like that. You know what I mean...these were the days that hobbies listed include "indian lore" and "animal tracking" and things like that. It includes craft ideas on how to make a variety of ugly things, like paper mache fruit that you glue into a wooden bowl to hang on your wall. You know, how to macrame. It also has ideas like how to make a "hobo stove" for camping (take a large, restaurant-sized, tin can, soak corrugated cardboard in paraffin wax, light wax on fire and cook your beans-n-weenies or whatever).


The book got me thinking though, about a simpler time for children. I know, I know, there never was any "good ol' days" and its not like the post-war 50's were all sunshine for people. I'm not saying we should go back to pioneer days when you could expect half your children to die of cholera and a bacterial infection was fatal. But there was a time when childhood obesity was not a problem. I mean like, how on earth can a child get obese? They have insane amounts of energy and love to burn it. But its now an "epidemic" in our country, along with childhood diabetes, ADHD, etc. 838 Ways talks about games to play in the car, games to play at the hotel with your kids while traveling, craft ideas for a kid stuck in bed sick (or convalescing as she loves to say). What do kids in cars do now? They watch the car's DVD player of course. What do they do at home when sick? Watch TV. What do they do in a hotel room? Watch TV. A friend recently related to me a scene she saw at a local restaurant. A child, no older than 3, watching a hand-held DVD player at the restaurant, totally zombified. Our kids are so plugged-in, its scary.

I suggest that plenty of free-play outdoors would eliminate the "epidemic" of childhood obesity. Children revel in simple pleasures and are experts at the art of noticing the small--living in the moment. A child, left to her own devices, will watch an ant-hole for an hour. Even if there was never a time when life was easy and simple, the happy Cleaver family with 2.5 kids, there was a time when children didn't watch TV. Children's programming, including 24 hour "preschool TV" like Sprout is a new phenomenon, only around since I was a kid and Sesame Street came out.

A recent study said that forty percent of infants by THREE MONTHS are "regularly" watching TV or videos. How in the HELL does a 3 month old watch TV? Its sickening. Never mind that the American Academy of Pediatrics says that watching any TV before the age of 2 YEARS is damaging to a child's brain development. Other studies point out alarming facts such as 66% of kids age 8 or older have a TV in their room. More than 80% of American kids watch MORE than 2 hours per day.

If you have kids, try to simplify their lives, too. Less exposure to commercials means they won't develop the desire to mindlessly consume. My mother's friend told me that her friend's children who are TV-free asked for matching umbrellas and rain boots for christmas, instead of the latest toy fad. They simply weren't aware of the latest toy fads. I think that is so precious. Kids need to experience nature. They need to experience the world. Limit their TV time by A LOT. Or just get rid of it. You'd be surprised at the ways they come up with to entertain themselves.

Saturday, May 19, 2007

Ideas on living simple

Just one more idea for today (I will not be posting as much once I get all my initial ideas down!) and that is on living simple.

I was talking to a mom yesterday with a 2 year old and a 4 month old. She was telling me that they couldn't afford for her to not work full-time (She is a teacher and her husband also works full-time) and she went back to work when the baby was only 6 weeks old.

I'm not judging this person's situation, since obviously I don't know her personal finances, but I think we all have an idea of the amount of money we "need" to have to live. For example, Jay makes a pretty modest income and we have a LOT of student debt. But I don't need to work. Why? We own older, crappy cars (ok, ok, one of them is pretty nice. but its old enough that its very cheap by newer car standards). We don't own a house (yes, yes, a house is a great "investment" but it is also STUFF. A very big STUFF that takes a lot of money to upkeep. Also our rent is about $825 a month, and if we bought this house or a comparable one it would be a $1600 or more per month mortgage). We don't buy things (when we do they are almost always used). Our kids' stuff is almost 100% hand-me-downs (thanks to our friends and especially Jay's sister!). We eat really simple, cheap meals mostly (beans and rice kinds of things...at some point, i will post frugal meal ideas here). We don't eat out much.

So I guess what I'm saying is...do people really *need* to work, or do we just work to maintain a certain level of spending? How can moms that I know make more than twice what we do (with mom and dad both working) *need* to work, while I don't need to? Maybe its that we choose to work. My goal for the next 10 years is for Jay and I to both work part-time (I'm not working out of the home right now. Oh, yes, believe me I AM working!) And why not? If we don't buy a house, and especially if we get rid of our cars at some point, we don't need to double what jay is making right now by having me work full-time.

I would pay so much money to not have Emmett in daycare. And i guess I do. But money is just money. Stuff is just stuff. My baby is only going to be a baby once. If I owned a house, I would sell it to stay home with them if that is what it took. If I had a car payment, I would go car-free if that is what it took. I would eat beans and rice for EVERY meal, if that is what it took.

Its all a matter of what you are willing to "sacrifice". I guess I'm more willing to be poor than to have someone else raise my kids. I'm not trying to sound judgmental if you chose some other path, or if you really DID have to work when your kids were little. Its just something that I think about a lot.

It is kind of what I am talking about with the treadmill idea. We work to own a house. We work to pay for our kids' daycare. We have to keep working to upkeep the house. To pay for our 401K. To be able to go on a cruise vacation. Of course you may be more financially "secure" if you are on this treadmill. We aren't paying down our debts a lot. We aren't saving for retirement (that whole issue is so crazy anyway. There was a Frontline about it awhile back, and it just made me feel like its so impossible to do that now anyway).

Enough about that. Have I mentioned that I love living without a TV? I love, love, love it. I don't miss the thing at all. TV is stupid. And evil.
 
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